Mother’s Day is approaching and it makes me ask “When was the last time you took an honest-to-goodness portrait with your mom?” You can look at my images and see my answer…
Moms are usually the ones planning our memories, making sure they go off without a hitch and exactly how we want them to. They’re also usually the ones behind the camera making sure the photos get taken for the memory books (the ones that she’ll get to “someday”). Moms shy away from being in the photos – usually because they put themselves last so they’re unhappy with the way their hair looks, what they’re wearing or the few extra pounds she is carrying from eating dinner late at night after sports practices, homework and bedtime routines are finished.
Yes, our moms love us to pieces and when they don’t agree with what we’re doing or saying, they aren’t shy about hiding it. We love them for their innate desire to protect us and want what’s best for us, but we also roll our eyes behind their backs at their unsolicited advice because we think we already know the answer to our own problems.
We don’t like to think about it, let alone talk about it, but “someday” she’ll be gone. We won’t be able to pick up the phone to call her, hear her tell you “I love you” or laugh with you over life. And when you look through old photos to remember her, you may not find her. Or you may find photos that were taken so long ago, you don’t remember the mom in that photo.
So, don’t let her make excuses any longer. Tell her she’s beautiful, that you love her outfit and you think her hair looks the best it will look in the next 20 years. Then step in front of the camera, and control the giggles just long enough to capture the two of you, as beautiful as you are today.
For Mother’s Day last year, Cori gifted me a photo shoot of the two of us. I was so touched and excited. A few days before the shoot, we went shopping together to find the perfect complementary dresses for our shoot. The day of the photo shoot, we got our hair and makeup done – we looked and felt our best when we stepped in front of the camera. It had been a while since I had spent time on just me so at first I felt a little indulgent. We quickly got comfortable and ten minutes into the shoot, we got the uncontrollable giggles (the kind where you have tears running down your cheeks and need to pause the shoot for make-up touch-ups). It not only made it fun and memorable, but we also got some very silly out-takes! This was the best Mother’s Day present ever…we have many casual photos of the two of us together (mostly group shots where my eyes are closed), but our last professional portrait together was taken on her wedding day and before that when she was a little girl who could sit on my lap. The photos turned out so beautiful – I have them hanging on my wall where I can see them every day. It is a constant reminder of the bond I have with my daughter, and the experience we had, just the two of us, together.